Listening to the Remarkable Elizabeth Smart
"I remember in school one time, I had a teacher who was talking about abstinence," Smart told the panel. "And she said, 'Imagine you're a stick of gum. When you engage in sex, that's like getting chewed. And if you do that lots of times, you're going to become an old piece of gum, and who is going to want you after that?' Well, that's terrible. No one should ever say that. But for me, I thought, 'I'm that chewed-up piece of gum.' Nobody re-chews a piece of gum. You throw it away. And that's how easy it is to feel you no longer have worth. Your life no longer has value."
Christians should be horrified by this kind of teaching. How far it is from the Bible's actually teaching about purity, redemption, and grace! Let's make sure that any abstinence training in our churches does not include this kind of dangerous rhetoric. We should not be surprised that such instances are being used to shame our otherwise laudable efforts in this direction.